Self-love is a very vast and one of the most talked about topics of this time. Everyone is somewhere struggling with it, and there are plenty of ideas out there to love yourself more.
In this blog, we are not going to give any direct solutions to increase your self-love, we are going to give you some thoughts and ideas to have in mind while you try to hate yourself. These ideas will help you to love yourself a little bit more.
Without any further ado, here we go:
a. Failing is normal
In our society, failure is not often talked about as normal. Everyone everywhere is showcasing their success, it seems we are the only ones failing in life. But the truth is that we underestimate the likelihood of us failing at things. Whenever we do something out of our comfort zone, we are more likely to fail than not. Whether other people share their failures or not, always remember that it is a normal and necessary part of life.
We believe that, one should be more cautious in life, if they are not failing.
b. Everyone is just as stupid, scared, and lost as you are...
Due to social media, you are blinded by the messiness of life that is a part of everyone’s life. It is necessary to remember that no one’s life is perfect (even if you can only see perfection). Everyone is struggling with their problems, insecurities, and fears. We have written a blog on a similar topic, you can read more on this here.
c. It is history’s fault as well
We are all the result of our upbringing! Everyone is. No matter who we are, our childhood has a huge impact on who we are. Some of the things in us are under our control, we do get better at them but some of them are beyond our control. We have to accept the fact that we are not in full command of who we are or what we do, therefore we cannot be responsible for everything we do. We can try to work on those faults but it will take years if not decades of therapy and constant efforts. Therefore we can’t and we shouldn’t blame ourselves for every foolish act that we do.
d. Your brain is an idiot
We have a manufacturing defect. As extraordinary as it is, it is also, at times, a completely unreliable, biased, forgetful, ignorant, and misleading organ at times. It can make us fall in love with a person just because of their beautiful hair. The idiot always wants to do easy over the right thing in life. It can sometimes make us afraid of things that pose no danger at all. The brain hates to pause and reflect on experiences it loves being addicted and distracted. And so much more. The moral of the story is to remember that we are trying to live a life with an idiotic tool at our disposal. So instead of expecting a lot from ourselves all the time, we need to cut some slack.
e. You might be evaluating yourself with the wrong metrics
We are not our achievements. Whatever material success we have or not have in life, it is a very small part of who we are. We are kind, creative, imaginative, compassionate, thoughtful, sensitive, loving and so much more... Unfortunately, our society has narrowed down the lovability to very specific things. That is why, we need to constantly remind ourselves (especially at times when we think we are not 'doing' anything in life) that we are more than what we ‘do’.
Self-love is a much deeper subject than these four ideas. But these ideas are a good start to your journey of self-acceptance, self-compassion, and self-love. Remember them.
Failing is normal.
Everyone else is just as stupid, scared, and lost as you are.
It is history's fault as well.
Your brain is an idiot.
You might be evaluating yourself with the wrong metrics.
If you have any other ideas that help you be okay with yourself, do share them with us.
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