Relationships are one of the main sources of our happiness. Being in a relationship means there will be fights and arguments; it's inevitable to avoid occasional hurt. Sometimes, these conflicts persist, and without intervention, they can lead to serious damage to the relationship over time.
While these skills are fundamental for repairing relationships, they also serve as a foundation for enhancing them. Let's delve into each skill:
a. The Ability to Apologize
Apologizing seems straightforward when we're in the wrong. However, the real challenge arises when both parties believe they are right. A sincere apology can work wonders, but often people struggle to acknowledge their faults. Yet, it takes two to tango. In a conflict, it's not about who's right or wrong; it's about recognizing our own mistakes and genuinely apologizing. Being the first to apologize creates an opening for the other person to let down their guard and acknowledge their own errors. But although there is a possibility of a good response in return, it is crucial to apologize without expecting anything in return.
b. The Ability to Forgive
We believe, at times, it is much easier to say sorry than to forgive someone. At times, humans do things that seem unforgivable, it requires us to understand that good people (including us) can and will end up doing pretty bad things. Not because we are inherently bad, but because those bad things are the result of fear, sadness, worriedness, or just a lack of sleep. We don't forgive because we have to, we forgive because we want to. Forgiveness is a first step towards giving yourself and that relationship a space to build something new without dragging the weightage of the past. There are a lot of different ideas behind why to forgive, we have written one blog that might help you to see the same situation a little differently, you can read it here.
c. The Ability to Teach
Teaching is an often-overlooked yet vital skill in any relationship. As we get close to someone, we may notice areas where they could improve as a partner or as an individual. But being a good teacher means understanding that there is a right time and a right way to teach things. Humans are resistant to change and new ideas. And it is the teacher's job to understand that it is not easy to learn things, especially when we don't find the need to learn. Teaching in a relationship will require incredible patience and polite repetitions to make it happen (eventually).
d. The Ability to Learn
Just as we teach, we must also be willing to learn. We are not perfect either, and the people close to us know exactly how. Being a good student means not taking offense when our loved ones point out areas for improvement. It is not easy, it requires humility to acknowledge that we're still learners in many aspects, especially when we may see ourselves as teachers in other areas. The ability to learn is essential for personal growth and strengthening relationships and it requires the faith that our partner might be on to something, something that we might be blindsided by but need to work on to become a better person and partner.
These four skills require practice and patience. They can repair and enhance any relationship, particularly with your life partner.
We'd love to hear your thoughts on these relationship skills.
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